Dealing With Autism
The subject of autism is a complex one in that a number of behavioural disorders can be labelled ‘autistic’. In turn these ‘behavioural disorders’ can vary in degrees of disability. Some people with autism appear to be completely shut off in their own world and may even exhibit very angry and aggressive tendencies. Others who may have suffered from developmental issues earlier on, but who have had help and training, have learned to cope beautifully and can function well in their work and social environments.
It can be said however, that all these disorders centre around that basic issue of interacting and communicating with others. All are treatable to some degree but it is understood that it is never really cured and that a person faced with this challenge may make a great deal of progress in coping with it but will nonetheless face it their entire life.
Some descriptive terms that relate to, and try to differentiate the varying degrees of autistic behaviour are: high or low functioning, autistic like, or having autistic tendencies. These help to illustrate that even though two children may receive the diagnosis of autism their functioning abilities may vary widely. But while their characteristics may vary it is generally understood that most autistic individuals have to cope with a higher sensitivity to the sights, smells and sounds that surround them. Most of us may take for granted the noises of our daily routines, the aromas of foods or the touch and feel of certain objects. Yet for people with autism some of these things can be painful to their senses. This is a result of the brain’s inability to coordinate and integrate their senses input correctly. By carefully observing over time their sensitivities it can help us to better understand their negative reactions and find ways of mitigating the situation.
Another aspect of living with autism is the need for a regular, consistent and safe routine. For those that are caring for autistic individuals it is important to plan ahead as much as possible for any variance in their routine. Since there can be some resistance it will be necessary to slowly prepare them for the change coming up with repeated warm assurances. They often respond very well to a physical representation of what may be ahead so if it is possible to show a picture of what is planned or involved, it can help. Some have also found that having a calendar with a marked date and involving them in marking the days off can help build an acceptance for and perhaps even an anticipation for the event.
Though many have difficulty in starting or maintaining conversations with others - at times they may seem to talk at people rather that to them and will be unresponsive to the input of others - they will need to be helped to grow in this area to keep them connected to their loved ones and their environment. This may require a great deal of patience and understanding. But ultimately, the biggest gift that parents can give is their unconditional love. Though children or adults with autism may not always respond on our terms or perhaps appear to be unmoved by the emotions of others they are no different from anyone else who needs to be able to feel they are loved and be able to love in return.
